There is no doubt that any mother when you see her child suffering or feel sad whatever the reason it is very difficult for her. The mother always wants to protect her child from any physical or psychological harm, even if this means not telling him the whole truth.
Any child after divorce or separation of his parents may live with one or organize his time between the two. Of course, if a mother is going through divorce or separation, she will be worried about how her child adapts to the new situation and the change that may continue. It is best to take care of your child and your interest in him and his education in cooperation with your father or your former husband because this will give the child a kind of stability and will develop good relationship with both his father and his mother must draw attention to this will not be easy. However, despite the many challenges that any mother may face in the divorce phase, through some ideas and advice, she can maintain a positive relationship with her ex-husband or husband for the benefit of the child and the children in order to think in their own interest first.
Of course, talking about divorce or separation is not only difficult for the child but also difficult for the mother. So before you start talking to your child, think about your feelings well and all the changes that have taken place in your family. In the beginning you should think carefully about the important things your child will need to hear, such as when his father will see or where he will live, and that you should also think about how you will deal with your feelings during your conversation with your child.
Sometimes the mother may think that she can ease the divorce or separation of the child by using words other than divorce and separation. For example, she may decide to tell her child that he and his father will stay away from each other for a while to think about some things. Or, for example, a mother may tell a child that his father will start a new project at work, so he will need to move from home to be closer to the workplace. But every mother should be aware that if she tries to interpret things differently from the child’s truth, he will cling to the hope that things between his father and mother may return to normal. It is therefore best to tell the child what is happening in a clear and direct language.
You should also talk to your child about some things that will not change with your separation from your father, such as the fact that both of you will still love him and how he will continue to go to the same school and have the same friends. Try as much as possible to minimize the changes your child may be experiencing due to divorce, especially in the early stages. If you are talking to your child about divorce or separation and ask a question that you are unsure about, do not feel that you should answer the question or inquire immediately. Do not talk to your child about your negative feelings towards your father. In such cases, you may be asked to talk to a close friend or a psychiatrist or you can use exercise.
The rules followed by the child in your home or father’s home should not be identical, while maintaining important general points such as homework and home leave.